You’ve seen it. In real life. Perhaps in your own home. On tv. Reality shows like the Gastineau Girls. Dramatic series like the Gilmore Girls. I think they are still worth watching in re-runs speeding through that thing that they do. Ask any mom and her female offspring and you’ll find they have one. By now she’s shaking her head back and forth up and down or to the right and left. Whether you get along or not, is not important. It’s the fact that there is a relationship that ’s so unique.
My daughter and I were recorded recently as proof that we have our thing which I denied until I saw us on screen. Yep! We’ve got it. There’s no denying it. But somehow I was convinced, it’ must be something recent. You know, a recent generation thing. Then I ran across my “Senior Memories” book. Senior as in my Senior High School book, reallllllllly back in the day. That’s where I discovered, the mother-daughter thing, must have been around a long time. For on a page in my book, were the bold headlines, ” THE INFLUENTIALS, …people who helped you become the person you are…” Guess who was on my page. That’s right. My Mom. Here’s what I wrote at age 17.
The person who influenced my life most and helped me and understood me when no one else would, could or did was my Mom. My Mother has helped me most not only in high school, but from my earliest beginnings. When friends failed she was my best friend; yet, when that motherly touch was needed, she was always there. She shaped my basic ideals. I only wish that I’ll be as understanding, thoughtful, trusting and sensitive to others’ wants and needs as she. She has devoted her life to helping and serving others. I only hope my life can be spent as well making her as proud of me as I am of her. Thanks Mom!
I guess even then, there was a special something between us. My Mom passed away last week. That thing we had changed over the years. But at the center of it all was always, love. It’s the same way with my daughter, today. It’s a Mother-Daughter thing.
I am truly sympathetic and send my sincerest condolences for the loss of your Mother. I use to wish that my mother and I had the relationship that most young girls that got a long with their mothers did. I then realized that if it wasn’t for the type of relationship that we had I would not have become the woman. My Mother and I speak on rare occasions but when we do it is definitely better than what we had when I was younger. I told young woman that I would come across that if they had a good relationship with their mother to hold on to it because some don’t have it and may never get a chance to experience it.
By: N. Stokelin-Muhammad on July 1, 2009
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